Life is short. Have an affair.
Before you shoot the messenger, I don’t agree with this statement. I’m just repeating a slogan that’s popping up on billboards and TV slots around the country. AshleyMadison.com is a “cheating Web site”–specifically designed for unhappily married people to find each other and . . . well . . . you know.
I hope you are recoiling in horror and disgust that such a service exists–and so we should. Applauding and encouraging infidelity is a darker demon even than the casual sex mantra that so many of us fought in our college years (and beyond). However, one of the saddest commentaries on this dark cultural shift is how this Web site is being marketed.
Noel Biderman, president and CEO of AshleyMadison.com, states, “I don’t think a billboard is going to convince you to commit adultery. It just makes you aware of our service. People come to us because we offer them a lack of judgment. Step back and look at marriage and divorce rates. Monogamy is obviously up for debate.”
This statement is being lauded by many news outlets as a “good point”, which should give Christians cause for concern. Current statistics show that 45.8% of all marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. The unnerving side of this number is that it’s the same percentage, whether spouses claim to be born-again or not.
As Christians, we need to stick to what God says about monogamy. Obviously, in His eyes, it’s not “up for debate.” The third commandment is “You shall not commit adultery”.
While those without the Lord can attempt to justify their actions, He has given us clear warning about where this path leads: “But a man who commits adultery lacks judgment; whoever does so destroys himself”. (Proverbs 6:32)
Christians need to take a stand for traditional marriage and a value system that puts love and respect back into marriage, the way God intended. If we as Christians are not willing to be a great example of God’s love and his plan for us, how can we shake our fingers at the world? The world is desperate for us to prove why we are different, and why marriage is worth fighting for.
As Paul writes in 1 Corinthians: “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
God has given us wisdom for fulfilling marriages and a clear blueprint to share with the world. Christian marriages are called to rise above the cynicism and lust that surrounds us, and embrace the joy and intimacy that God intended in all marriages. We are human and we will make mistakes, of course, and we certainly have reason to be outraged at such blatant infidelity and irreverence. But where do we go with this righteous indignation?
I believe Christians need to fight this culture war by pouring even more effort into our marriages, that we “may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe.” (Philippians 2:14-16)