Spoiler Alert! If you set your DVR for ABC’s “The Bachelorette” season six finale but haven’t yet watched it, I suggest you bookmark this post to read later. Last night, Ali Fedotowsky introduced her two final suitors to her family before the final rose ceremony. All along, Ali had said she wanted to find love, specifically unconditional love. Did she?
If you watched the end of the show, or the “After the Final Rose” show afterward, you know that Ali believes she did find that unconditional love. From the first impression rose to the last, Roberto Martinez held the lead. Because Ali believes Roberto loves her without reserve, she offered him the final rose, and he accepted. Roberto made his love for Ali clear to her and to her family, especially her father. But is it really an unconditional love?
As much as Ali wants to believe that his love is without condition, Roberto revealed the truth of his love at the end of the afterglow show. He stated that if Ali loved him, he would love her with everything he had. Did you catch that? He said, and I quote, “If Ali loves me, then….” If…then. Conditions.
Don’t mistake my writing. I pray for a lifelong relationship of marriage between the two that will testify to the perfect will of God. But I also pray they both realize they are only human. The only source of unconditional, unreserved love is God above. Only He is capable of loving in this way. That is why the best marriages are those who tap into the Source of true love. It is in receiving God’s Holy Spirit, through faith in Christ, that one is empowered to love another with God’s supernatural kind of love.
This is the love that is patient and kind, the kind of love often spoken of in wedding ceremonies – the kind of love that doesn’t envy or boast, is not arrogant or rude, doesn’t insist on its own way, and is not irritable or resentful. God is love, and “love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends” (1Corinthians 13:7-8). Everyone who thinks he is capable in his own power of loving in this manner, please stand up. For those of you who still sit, perhaps a little more humbly now admitting your inability to love perfectly, you might consider getting on your knees instead.
“For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38-39).
Question: If you have received God’s unconditional love in your heart, how have you experienced it overflowing from you into the lives of others?