I have a good friend that I almost always disagree with things on. We get together once-a-month with a couple of other friends for a light Bible study. Mostly we share our needs and pray for each other.
Our relationship is very interesting and if you didn’t know us and heard us debate you would never guess that outside of those discussions, we remain good friends. We are both believers and we share the same doctrinal beliefs but when it comes to methods, well that is a different story.
This is where Christians sometimes get into trouble with each other. They may agree on scripture but their methods may be different. Yet they get so wrapped up in whose “method” is right that they end up making it into something scriptural when it really isn’t.
Let me give you an example. One disagreement we had recently was on the Bible verse about spare the rod, spoil the child. My method of disciplining one of my children is not what she considered to be biblical. Her answer was for me to follow the many Proverbs that talk about using the “rod” of discipline.
We didn’t debate about whether or not it is biblical to spank but we ended up debating about the method I choose to use (by the way, which is not to spank). As always happens, it ended well and we were back to laughing and acting as if nothing had happened.
You see, we don’t take our disagreements and turn them into more than they are. We don’t condemn each other. We don’t try to make the other feel like we are somehow a “better” Christian.
But so many believers they do this. They disagree about something and they turn it into something nasty and vicious. Methods are not worth getting upset about. We all have our different methods when it comes to every area of our lives. We just need to learn to appreciate those differences.