What is the right thing to say when people pass from this earth? I am an expert on what not to say because much of the wrong stuff has been said to me.
I know just how you feel, because my dog died.
Are you crying for yourself or for your dead husband?
Do you suddenly burst out in tears like that for no reason?
How much did you have to pay for this funeral?
What did his will say? Do you inherit?
You will likely get married again.
Gratefully, others just hug you and pray for you. Sometimes, they care more about you than they do about themselves. And then there are some, who let God speak through them.
That happened to me when two of our local policemen were murdered in cold blood. The next day, I felt that I should take a sympathy card to the office. I expected to walk in and lay the card on the desk and leave. Instead, several officers stood outside the building. I walked over and handed one my card. And to my astonishment, I said “This is a small token of our sadness on your behalf.” He thanked me while another officer saluted me.
I ask you, who says words like that? Even to me it sounded like Old English. I recognized that it was God. Sometimes you speak the Gospel without actually speaking the Gospel.
Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction. (2 Timothy 4:2)