How shall we make peace? Is there a way to deal with it? What can we do when relationships are cut off? Here are some ideas to get you started.
First of all we should do what we can to make peace. The Bible says this.
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. (Romans 12:18, NIV)
And if the other person refuses your offers of peace: as always, the Bible still gives the answer. Live in peace as far as it depends on you!
David married King Saul’s daughter and was best friends with Jonathon, Saul’s son. Saul tried to break up these relationships, bad-mouthed David, plotted against him, and even tried to kill him.
David had good reason to be angry at Saul but he wasn’t. He aimed for peace, but Saul didn’t peace or any kind of relationship with David.
However, when Saul died in battle, this is how David responded: he grieved, called his men to fast and pray, wrote a mourning song for Saul, and told the nation to memorize it. All this is recorded in 2 Samuel 1:17–27.
Then David and all the men with him took hold of their clothes and tore them. They mourned and wept and fasted till evening for Saul and his son Jonathan. (2 Samuel 1:11–12, NIV)
When life (or death) places us in unresolved circumstances, we can do what David did. He dwelt on the best of what he knew, and spoke love, praise, and kindness about his former enemy.
Prayer: Lord, give us the grace to do what David did, or, at the very least, help us to keep our mouths shut. For Christ’s sake. Amen.